Research suggests feeling known, understood, and valued by a partner can buffer conflict and strife. Our perspective significantly shapes our emotional experiences in relationships and is essential in cultivating positive perspectives and healthy connections. 

Positive sentiment override involves intentionally interpreting ambiguous statements or actions from your loved one in a favorable or neutral light. Max Planck, a renowned physicist, said, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”  Why does that matter and what does this mean for relationships?  

When we change the way we perceive our partner’s actions, we create space for understanding and empathy. Max Planck’s statement encourages us to view things from a positive angle, interpreting your partner’s behavior as well-intentioned rather than assuming negativity. This shift fosters emotional closeness and trust. 

If you were to think of your relationship as an emotional bank account, deposits of trust and understanding will afford more opportunities to navigate challenges. It creates emotional reserves and over time, this mindset creates grace and becomes a power tool for sustaining a thriving relationship. 

Positive sentiment override extends beyond individual moments. When all parties adopt this mindset, conflicts become opportunities for growth. Instead of escalating arguments, you seek common ground. Over time, this approach transforms the relationship landscape.

It is essential to recognize red flags and genuine concerns. However, assuming the best intentions allows effective communication during relational conflicts. Navigating relational conflicts is a universal challenge and taking opportunities to support a healthy dynamic can shift an argument into effective communication. Few relationships are safe from disagreement and  practicing techniques that support a healthy dynamic can turn clashes into harmony.